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A
wedding is the ceremony in which
two people are united in marriage or
a similar institution. Wedding traditions and customs vary greatly
between cultures, ethnic
groups, religions, countries,
and social classes. Most wedding
ceremonies involve an exchange of wedding
vows by the couple, presentation of a gift (offering, ring(s),
symbolic item, flowers, money), and a public proclamation of
marriage by an authority figure or leader. Special wedding garments
are often worn, and the ceremony is followed by a wedding
reception. Music, poetry, prayers or readings from Scripture
or literature also may be incorporated into the ceremony.
Common
elements across cultures
A
number of cultures have adopted the traditional Western custom
of the white wedding, in which
a bride wears a white
dress and veil. This tradition was popularized
through the wedding of Queen
Victoria. Some say Victoria's choice of a white gown may
have simply been a sign of extravagance, but may have also been
influenced by the values she held which emphasized sexual purity.
Within the modern 'white wedding'
tradition, a white dress and veil are unusual choices for a
woman's second or subsequent wedding. The notion that a white
gown might symbolize sexual purity has been long abandoned,
and is criticized by etiquette writers like Judith
Martin as distasteful.
The
use of a wedding ring of some kind has long been part of religious
weddings in Europe and Americas, but the origins of the tradition
are unclear. Historians like Vicky Howard, point out that belief
in the "ancient" quality of the practice are most
likely a modern invention. "Double ring" ceremonies
are also a modern practice, a groom's wedding band not appearing
in the United States until the early 20th Century.
The
wedding is often followed by a reception in which the rituals
may include toasting the newlyweds, their first dance as spouses,
and the cutting a wedding cake.
Traditional
wedding garb
- Cheongsam
or Hanfu, Chinese
traditional formal wear.
- Batik
and Kebaya, a garment worn by the Javanese
people of Indonesia and also
by the Malay people of Malaysia.
- Barong
Tagalog, an embroidered, formal men's garment of the Philippines.
- Kimono,
the traditional garments of Japan
- Sari,
Indian popular and traditional dress in India
- Dhoti,
male garment in South India
- Dashiki,
the traditional West African wedding
attire
- Aodai,
traditional garments of Vietnam
- Morning
dress, western daytime formal dress
- Kilt,
male garment particular to Scottish
culture
- Kittel,
a white robe worn by the groom at an Orthodox
Jewish wedding. The kittel is worn only under the Chupah,
and is removed before the reception.
- Topor,
a type of conical headgear
- Evening
Suits
- Black
tie ("dinner jacket" in the UK; often referred
to as a "Tuxedo"
in the US; traditionally appropriate only for use after
6:00 p.m., but also seen in daytime, especially in the
United States)
- Non-traditional
"tuxedo" variants (colored jackets/ties, "wedding
suits")
- White
tie ("evening dress" in the UK; very formal
evening attire)
- Sherwani,
a long coat-like garment worn in South
Asia
- Wedding
crown, worn by Scandinavian
brides
- Wedding
veil
- Wedding
dress
- Langa
Oni, traditional two piece garment worn by unmarried Telugu
Hindu women.
Wedding music
Western weddings
Music
played at Western weddings includes a processional song for walking
down the aisle (ex: wedding march)
and reception dance music includes:
- Various
works for trumpet and organ, arguably the most famous of which
include the Prince of
Denmark's March by Jeremiah
Clarke as a processional, the "Trumpet Tune"
by Henry Purcell and the "Trumpet
Voluntary" by John
Stanley as recessionals.
- Selections
by George Frideric Handel,
perhaps most notably the "Air" from his Water
Music as processional and the "Alla Hornpipe"
as recessional.
- The
"Bridal Chorus" from
Lohengrin by Richard
Wagner, often used as the processional and commonly known
as "Here Comes the Bride". Richard Wagner is said
to have been anti-Semitic, and
as a result, the Bridal Chorus is often not used at Jewish
weddings.
- Johann
Pachelbel's Canon in D
is an alternative processional.
- The
"Wedding March"
from Felix Mendelssohn's
incidental music for the
Shakespeare play,
A Midsummer Night's
Dream, used as a recessional.
- The
"Toccata" from Charles-Marie
Widor's Symphony
for Organ No. 5, used as a recessional.
- Segments
of the Ode to Joy, the fourth movement
of Ludwig van Beethoven's
Ninth Symphony.
- At
wedding receptions, Der Ententanz, a 1950s Swiss Oom-pah
song known more commonly in America as The
Chicken Dance, has become a popular part of the reception
dance music.
- "At
Last" by Etta James is often chosen as the first
song for the bride and groom to dance to.
Jewish weddings
At
traditional Jewish
weddings, a solemn, wordless tune is sung as the groom and then
bride walk down the aisles.
Wedding
customs around the world
African customs
Ethiopia
The
Wedding procedure starts with the groom's side sending a representative
who requests the marriage between the parties. Then an appointment
is given and a verdict on the marriage is given. Before the wedding
the Dowry is given as agreed. On the wedding day the groom and
three or four "bestmen" ( ሚዜ) go to the wife's house.
At the house the wife's family and friends ceremonially block
the entrance to the house. The associates must sing strongly and
force their way into the house. The first bestman holds perfume
and sprays everywhere inside the house.
Nigeria
In
Nigeria, in west Africa, a husband never uses his wife’s name.
Only relatives and the women's own children are allowed to use
the name her father gave her and it is only unmarried girls who
may be called by name. So to learn a married woman’s name, one
has to ask her husband the name of her father, and use that. When
a couple are about to get married in this community people sing
to inform that the bride is bound and is brought to the young
man. Singing and dancing are two very important fragments in the
Nigerian weddings and they are always combined with a big feast.
The bride is kept in a special hut where she stays till he is
let inside.
Pygmy
wedding traditions
Pygmy
engagements were not long and usually formalized by an exchange
of visits between the families concerned. The groom to be would
bring a gift of game or maybe a few arrows to his new in-laws,
take his bride home to live in his band and with his new parents.
His only obligation is to find among his relatives a girl willing
to marry a brother or male cousin of his wife. If he feels he
can feed more than one wife, he may have additional wives.
Arab wedding
customs
Although
Christian weddings in the Arab
World bear similarities to Western weddings, Muslim
weddings in the Arab countries are influenced by Muslim
traditions. Muslim weddings start with a Sheikh
and Al-kitaab (book) for
the bride and groom. A wedding is not Islamically
valid unless both bride and groom are willing, and the groom
is often encouraged to visit her before the wedding (as advised
in many aḥadīth of the Islamic
prophet Muhammad). However, these
visits must be chaperoned to ensure purity of action between
the two. Men and women in wedding ceremonies and receptions
are segregated, with areas for men and for women.
Bengali
wedding customs
Bengali
wedding refers to both Muslim and Hindu
weddings in Bangladesh and West
Bengal. Although Muslim and Hindu marriages have their distinctive
religious rituals, there are many common cultural rituals in
marriages across religion among Bengali
people.
Chinese
wedding customs
Traditional
Chinese marriage is a ceremonial ritual within Chinese societies
that involve a marriage established by pre-arrangement
between families. Within Chinese
culture, romantic love was allowed, and monogamy
was the norm for most ordinary citizens. A band of musicians
with gongs and flute-like instruments accompanies the bride
parade to groom's home. Similar music is also played at the
wedding banquet. Depending on the region that the bride hails
from, Chinese weddings will have different traditions such as
Tea Ceremony or the use
of a wedding emcee. Also in modern times, Chinese couples will
often go to photo studios to take "glamour shots"
posing in multiple gowns and various backgrounds.
Cantonese
wedding customs
Most
Cantonese wedding rituals follow the main Chinese wedding traditions,
although some rituals are particular to the Cantonese
people. In a Cantonese wedding the bride price is based
on the groom's economic status. The idea of "selling the
daughter" or bride isn't a phrase that is used often therefore
the price of the bride isn't too demanding. Most of the time
the bride price is in the form of gold jewelry, fine fabric,
or money, even a roast pig which symbolizes the bride to be
a virgin. Wedding presents are given by the elderly couples
or couples that are older than the newlyweds and tea is served
by the younger family members.
European customs
British customs
The
Western custom of a bride wearing
a white wedding dress, came to
symbolize purity in the Victorian era, not virginity. Within
the "white wedding" tradition, a white dress and veil
is not considered appropriate in the second or subsequent wedding
of a widow or divorcee. The specific conventions of Western
weddings, largely from a Protestant
and Catholic viewpoint, are discussed
at "White wedding."
A
wedding is often followed or accompanied by a wedding reception,
which in some areas may be known as the 'Wedding Breakfast',
at which an elaborate wedding cake
is served. Western traditions include toasting
the couple, the newlyweds having the first
dance, and cutting the cake. A bride may throw her bouquet
to the assembled group of all unmarried women in attendance,
with folklore suggesting the person who catches it will be the
next to wed. A fairly recent equivalent has the groom throwing
the bride's garter to the
assembled unmarried men; the man who catches it is supposedly
the next to wed.
The
Wedding Breakfast is one occasion where every member of the
family, who has had at least some role in the wedding, is present.
It is also important being the first time the newly married
Bride and Groom share their first meal together as a lawfully
wedded couple. The word Breakfast comes from a more ancient
tradition of fasting before the wedding ceremony, the Wedding
Breakfast is therefore 'breaking that fast'. The modern Wedding
Breakfast includes the service of food to guests that can range
from traditional roasts, buffets, or regional treats such as
in the case of a London Wedding in the 'East End'.
A
modern tradition is for brides to wear or carry "something
old, something new, something borrowed, something blue"
during the service. It is considered good luck to do so. Often
the bride attempts to have one item that meets all of these
qualifications, such as a borrowed blue handkerchief which is
"new to her" but loaned by her grandmother (thus making
it old). Another addition to this custom is to wear a coin in
one's shoe to bring prosperity.
The
full text of the verse is:
- Something
old, something new,
- Something
borrowed, something blue,
- And
silver sixpence in your shoe.
French customs
In
smaller French towns, the groom may meet
his fiancée at her home on the day of the wedding and escort
her to the chapel where the ceremony is being held. As the couple
proceeds to the chapel, children will stretch long white ribbons
across the road which the bride will cut as she passes.
At
the chapel, the bride and groom are seated on two red velvet
chairs underneath a silk canopy called a carre. Laurel
leaves may be scattered across their paths when they exit the
chapel. Sometimes small coins are also tossed for the children
to gather.
At
the reception, the couple customarily uses a toasting cup called
a Coupe de Mariage. The origin of giving this toast began
in France, when a small piece of toast was literally dropped
into the couple's wine to ensure a healthy life. The couple
would lift their glass to "a toast", as is common
in Western culture today.
Some
couples choose to serve a croquembouche
instead of a wedding cake. This dessert is a pyramid of crème-filled
pastry puffs, drizzled with a caramel glaze.
At
a more boisterous wedding, tradition involves continuing the
celebration until very late at night. After the reception, those
invited to the wedding will gather outside the newlyweds' window
and bang pots and pans. They are then invited into the house
for some more drinks in the couple's honor, after which the
couple is finally allowed to be alone for their first night
together as husband and wife. This practice spread throughout
France as a way to celebrate special occasions. Decorative replicas
of these special sabres can be purchased
from artisans in Lyon,
France (the French capital of cutlery).
If
the couple is also having a religious ceremony, the civil ceremony
acts as a private family wedding. The mayor of the town where
the wedding is taking place usually performs the civil ceremony.
Once the civil ceremony is complete, the couple will receive
a livret de famille, a booklet where a copy of the marriage
certificate is recorded. This is an official document and,
should the couple have children, each child's birth certificate
will be recorded in the livret de famille too. The civil marriage
ceremony in France is free of charge.
Greek customs
Two
or three days before the wedding, the couple organizes a celebration
called Krevati (Greek for bed) in
their new home. In Krevati, friends and relatives of the couple
put money and young children on the couple's new bed for prosperity
and fertility in their life. After the custom, they usually
have a party with food and music.
On
the day of the wedding, usually Saturday, but also Friday or
Sunday, the groom cannot see the bride until the wedding ceremony.
The groom usually arrives first in church and waits for bride,
who usually arrives late. After they exchange flower bouquets,
they have the wedding ceremony, where the best man puts the
wedding rings and crowns on the
couple. The couple drink red wine from the same glass (between
one and three sips, depending on the tradition). This is not
"communion" in the formal religious sense, but about
sharing the cup of life. At the end of the wedding ceremony,
as the newly wedded pair leave the church, the guests throw
rice and flowers for fertility and felicity. Special guests,
such as close friends and family receive sugar-coated almonds
(traditionally an odd number, usually seven but sometimes five)
as a gift from the couple. Most Greek ceremonies are Orthodox.
After
the ceremony, usually the couple hold a great wedding party
in some place with plenty of food, drinks, music and dance,
usually until next morning. The wedding party starts with the
invited people waiting for the couple, who usually come after
some time. They start the party dancing blues and eating a piece
of their wedding cake. In some point of the party, they also
dance the traditional zeibekiko (groom)
and çiftetelli (bride).
In
many places of Greece, where they hold
a more traditional wedding, they usually play only traditional
music and eat local food.
For example in the region of Cyclades,
they eat the traditional pasteli
(solid honey with sesame) and in the region of Crete
they cook rice with goat. In most traditional weddings, they
bake whole animals like pigs, goats or sheep just like the Greek
Easter celebration. Before the church
ceremony, especially in smaller areas, usually friends and relatives
of the bride and the groom, accompanies them separately to the
church playing traditional instruments, according to the region.
A
typical Greek wedding will usually have more than 100 invited
people (but usually 250-500) who are friends, siblings, grandparents,
uncles, aunts, first or second cousins, neighbors and colleagues.
It is common to have guests whom the couple has never met before.
This is because the people who will be invited are usually determined
by the parents of the couple and not by the couple themselves.
Traditionally, the whole village would have attended the wedding,
so very often the parents invite friends of theirs and their
children, to the weddings of their own children.
There
are many other traditions which are local to their regional
areas. One famous tradition is the pinning of money on the bride's
dress. This custom originated in one part of Greece, where it
is a substitute for wedding presents, however it has become
more widespread recently.
Italian customs
In
some parts of Italy, a party, known as
a Serenade, is thrown outside of the bride's home by the groom.
His family and friends come and wait for the bride, entertaining
themselves until she appears. The groom then sings to his bride
to further seduce her. Once his song is sung, the party ends.
The
day of the wedding, the groomsmen
try their hardest to make the groom as uncomfortable as possible
by saying things like "Maybe she forgot where the church
is".
It
is also traditional for the grooms family to give a dowry
to the bride and to provide the engagement
ring. The bride's family is then responsible for receiving
the guests of the wedding in their home for a reception afterward.
The
color green is very important in the Italian wedding. In Italy,
the tradition of something blue is replaced with something green.
This color brings good luck to the married couple. The veil
and bridesmaids
also were important in an Italian wedding. The tradition began
in Ancient Rome when the veil was
used to hide the bride from any spirits that would corrupt her
and the bridesmaids were to wear similar outfits so that the
evil spirits were further confused.
An
old Roman custom was that brides threw nuts at rejected suitors
as they left the ceremony.
After
dessert, more dancing commences, gifts are given, and the guests
eventually begin to leave. In Southern
Italy, as the guests leave, they hand envelopes of money
to the bride and groom, who return the gift with a wedding
favor, a small token of appreciation.
Polish customs
In
Polish weddings the celebrations may
continue for two or three days. In the past, the engagement
ceremony was organized by the future groom as a formal family
gathering, during which he asked his chosen lady to marry him.
In the recent years this custom has changed and today an engagement
is much more personal and intimate. An elegant dinner party
afterward is still a nice way to inform the closest family members
about the couples' decision to get married.
In
some regions of Poland the tradition to invite the wedding guests
in person is still upheld. Many young couples, accompanied by
the parents, visit their family and friends to hand them the
wedding invitations personally.
According
to the old tradition a groom arrives with his parents at the
house of a bride just before the wedding ceremony. At that time
both parents and parents-in-law give a young couple their blessing.
The couple enter the church together and walks up to the altar
followed by two witnesses and the parents. In Poland it is quite
unusual for the bride to be walked down the aisle or to have
bridesmaids and groomsmen in a wedding. The couple is assisted
by two witnesses, a man (usually grooms' side) and a woman (usually
brides' side) who are either family members or close friends.
The
Polish bride traditionally wears a white dress and a veil. The
groom, on the other hand usually wears a fitted suit with a
bow tie and a boutonnière that
matches the brides' bouquet. During the ceremony wedding rings
are exchanged and both the husband and wife wear them on their
right hand. Right after the ceremony the closest family and
all the guest form a line in the front of the church to congratulate
the newlyweds and wish them love and happiness. As soon as the
married couple leave the church they get showered with rice
for luck or guests drop coins at their feet for them to pick
up. This is done to ensure a good and prosperous future for
the newlyweds.
Once
all the guests have showered the couple with kisses, hugs and
flowers everyone heads to the reception. It is a custom in Poland
to prepare "passing gates" on the way to the reception
for the newlyweds who, in order to pass, have to give the "gate
keepers" some vodka. This is a misinterpretation of an
earlier tradition, where the "passing gates" were
built if the bride was an orphan and money collected by "gate
keepers" from the guests was handed over to the bride as
her dowry (being an orphan usually implied poverty).
The
married couple is welcomed at the reception place by the parents
with bread and salt. The bread symbolizes the prosperity, salt
stands for hardship of life, the parents wish the young couple
that they never go hungry and learn how to deal with every day
hardships together. The wedding party lasts (and the bride and
groom remain) until the last guest leaves, usually until morning.
In
Poland, movements like Human
Liberties Crusade or Wedding
of the Weddings promote non-alcoholic wedding celebrations.
Romanian customsi
Lăutari
are musicians performing traditional songs. The music of the
lăutari establishes the structure of the elaborate Romanian
peasant weddings. The lăutari also function as guides through
the wedding rituals and moderate any conflicts that may arise
during what can be a long, alcohol-fueled party. Over a period
of nearly 48 hours, this can be very physically strenuous.
Following
custom almost certainly dating back at least to the Middle
Ages, most lăutari spend the fees from these wedding ceremonies
on extended banquets for their friends
and families over the days immediately following the wedding.
Scottish customs
Scotland
is a popular place for young English couples to get married
since, in Scotland, parents' permission is not required if both
the bride and groom are old enough to legally be married (16).
In England it was the case that if either
was 16 or 17 then the permission of parents had to be sought.
Thus Scotland, and especially the blacksmith's
at Gretna Green, became a very
popular place for couples to elope
to, especially those under 18 and usually living in England.
Gretna Green now hosts hundreds of weddings a year and is Scotland's
third most popular tourist attraction.
Customs:
- The
bride's family sends invitations on behalf of the couple to
the wedding guests, addressed by hand. The couple may send
the invitations themselves, especially if they are more middle-aged.
The invites will specify if the invitation is for ceremony
and/or reception and/or evening following the meal at the
reception.
- Guests
send or deliver wedding gifts to the
bride's family home before the wedding day. Alternatively,
the couple may register at department store and have a list
of gifts there. The shop then organizes delivery, usually
to the bride's parents' house or to the reception venue.
- A
wedding ceremony takes place at a church,
register office or possibly
another favorite location, such as a hilltop. In this regard
Scotland differs significantly from England where only pre-approved
public locations may be used for the wedding ceremony. Most
ceremonies take place mid afternoon and last about half an
hour during which the marriage schedule is signed by the couple
and two witnesses, usually the best man and chief bridesmaid.
- The
newly wed couple may leave the ceremony to the sound of bagpipes.
- There
is a wedding reception following the ceremony, usually at
a different venue.
- The
bridal party lines up in a receiving line and the wedding
guests file past, introducing themselves.
- Usually
a drink is served while the guests and bridal party mingle.
In some cases the drink may be whisky
or wine with a non alcoholic alternative.
- The
best man and bride's father toast the bride and groom with
personal thoughts, stories, and well-wishes, usually humorous.
The groom then follows with a response on behalf of his bride.
Champagne is usually provided
for the toast.
- There
is nearly always dancing following the meal. Often in Scotland
this takes the form of a céilidh,
a night of informal traditional Scottish
dancing in couples and groups to live traditional
music. The first dance is led by the bride and groom,
followed by the rest of the bridal party and finally the guests.
- The
cake-cutting ceremony takes place; the bride and groom jointly
hold a cake cutter and cut the first pieces of the wedding
cake.
- Gifts
are not opened at the reception; they are either opened ahead
of time and sometimes displayed at the reception, or if guests
could not deliver gifts ahead of time, they are placed on
a table at the reception for the bride and groom to take home
with them and open later.
- A
sprig of white heather is usually
worn as a buttonhole for good luck.
- It
is the norm for the groom and much of the male bridal
party and guests to wear kilts, although suits are also
worn. Kilts and Highland dress
are often rented for this purpose
Handfasting
Handfasting
is an ancient Celtic wedding ritual in which
the bride's and groom's hands are tied together — hence the
phrase "tying the knot". "Handfasting" is
favored by practitioners of Celtic-based religions and spiritual
traditions, such as Wicca and Druidism.
Filipino
wedding customs
The
groom usually wears the Barong Tagalog
during the wedding, along with the male attendants, though nowadays
the wealthy opt to don Western attire such as a tuxedo. Weddings
held within the same year by two siblings, usually sisters, called
Sukob are frowned upon as it is regarded as bad luck. Some
hold it that the wedding rings dropping to the ground is a portent
of bad luck (this is usually said to the ring bearer to ensure
that the child is careful in handling the rings). Money, in the
form of paper bills, is sometimes taped or pinned to the groom
and bride's dress during their first dance.
Indian
wedding customs
Indian
weddings continue for several days. Due to the diversity of
Indian culture, the wedding style, ceremony and rituals may
vary greatly from amongst various states, regions, religions
and castes. While the Christians
of India usually follow a more or less Western wedding ceremony,
the Indian Hindus, Muslims, Jains and
Sikhs follow traditions quite different
from the West. It is quite common that during the traditional
wedding days, there would be a tilak
ceremony (where the groom is anointed on his forehead), a ceremony
for adorning the bride's hand and feet with henna
(called mehendi) accompanied by Ladies' Sangeet
(music and dance), and many other pre-wedding ceremonies.
Another important ceremony is the "Haldi" program
where the bride and the groom are anointed with turmeric paste.
All the close relatives make sure that they have anointed the
couple with turmeric.On the day (i.e. late evening) of the wedding
proper, the Bridegroom, his friends and relatives come
singing and dancing to the wedding site in a procession called
baraat, and then the religious
rituals take place to solemnize the wedding according to the
religion of the couple. While the groom may wear traditional
Sherwani or dhoti or Western
suit, his face is usually veiled with a mini-curtain of flowers
called sehra. The bride (Hindu
or Muslim) always wears red clothes, never white because white
symbolizes widowhood in Indian culture. In Southern and Eastern
states the bride usually wears a red
Sari, but in northern and central states the preferred garment
is a decorated skirt-blouse and veil called lehenga.
After the solemnization of marriage, the bride departs with
her husband. This is a very sad event for the bride's relatives
because traditionally she is supposed to permanently "break-off"
her relations with her blood
relatives to join her husband's family. The wedding may
be followed by a "reception" by the groom's parents
at the groom's place. While gifts and money to the couple are
commonly given, the traditional dowry from the bride's
parents to the couple is now officially forbidden by law.
Japanese
wedding customs
Japanese
wedding customs fall into two categories: traditional Shinto
ceremonies, and modern Western-style
ceremonies. In either case, the couple must first be legally
married by filing for marriage at their local government office,
and the official documentation must be produced in order for
the ceremony to be held. Before ever getting married there are
two types of mate selection that may occur with the couple:
(1) miai, or
an arranged marriage and (2) ren ai, or a love match.
The Japanese bride-to-be may be painted pure white from head
to toe, visibly declaring her maiden status to the gods. Two
choices of headgear exist. One, the watabÅshi, is a
white hood; the other, called the tsunokakushi,
serves to hide the bride's 'horns of jealousy.' It also symbolizes
the bride's intention to become a gentle and obedient wife.
Traditional
Japanese wedding customs (shinzen
shiki) involve an elaborate ceremony held at a Shinto
shrine. Japanese weddings are being increasingly extravagant
with all the elaborate details placed into thought. However,
in some cases, younger generations choose to abandon the formal
ways by having a "no host party" for a wedding. In
this situation, the guests include mainly of the couple's friends
who pay an attendance fee.
Western-style
ceremonies
In
recent years, the "Western Style Wedding" (influenced
by Christian weddings) has become the choice of most couples
in Japan. An industry has sprung up, dedicated to providing
couples with a ceremony modeled after church rituals. Japanese
western style weddings are generally held in a chapel, either
in a simple or elaborate ceremony, often at a dedicated wedding
chapel within a hotel.
Before
the ceremony, there is a rehearsal. Often during this rehearsal,
the bride's mother lowers the veil for her daughter, signifying
the last act that a mother can do for her daughter, before "giving
her away". The father of the bride, much like in Western
ceremonies, walks the bride down the aisle to her awaiting groom.
After
the rehearsal comes the procession. The wedding celebrant will
often wear a wedding cross, or cana, a cross with two interlocking
wedding rings attached, which symbolize a couple's commitment
to sharing a life together in the bonds of holy matrimony. The
wedding celebrant gives a brief welcome and an introductory
speech before announcing the bride's entrance. The procession
ends with the groom bowing to the bride's father. The father
bows in return.
The
service then starts. The service is given either in Japanese,
English or quite often, a mix of both. It follows Protestant
ceremony, relaxed and not overtly religious. Typically part
of 1 Corinthians
13 is read from the Bible. After the reading,
there is a prayer and a short message, explaining the sanctity
of the wedding vows (seiyaku). The bride and groom share
their vows and exchange rings. The chapel register is signed
and the new couple is announced. This is often followed by the
traditional wedding kiss.
The service can conclude with another hymn and a benediction.
Contemporary-style
ceremonies
With
the two types of ceremonies, Shinto and Western, available it
was bound for the two to be combined into what is called a contemporary
Japanese wedding. Contemporary Japanese weddings are celebrated
in many ways. On the beginning of the wedding day, the participants
are to get ready at the parlor's beauty shop. The responsibility
of the beauty shop is to dress the bride, the groom, and the
other participants in the formal Japanese attire. Dressing the
bride is an important task because the bride is to change into
several outfits throughout her wedding day. Due to the complexity
of the design, dressing a bride can be difficult and time consuming
and for this reason the bride must be the first person to arrive
two hours prior to the wedding ceremony. The bride's attire
consists of an extravagant kimono, heavy make-up, a wig, and
a head covering. An hour prior to the wedding ceremony, the
guests and the groom should start to arrive.
When
everyone is dressed in their formal attire, the bride and the
groom are to separate from each other and meet their close relatives
in a waiting room. The relatives present will appear in the
family photo and will also attend the religious ceremony. During
this gathering, the kaizoe (assistant) will inform the participants
of what will take place and what they should do during the day
since they are not familiar with the ceremony.
When
all is understood, the relatives and participants are brought
to the photo studio where the professional photographs are to
be taken. Taking the photographs of the bride, the groom, and
their relatives is considered to be the central part of the
wedding day. The photographs of the couple and their family
are designed to represent the couple's prospective future together.
After
the lengthy photo session, the bride, the groom, and others
are brought to the Shinto shrine. Nowadays, the Shinto shrine
may be conveniently located inside a hotel where all the activities
will take place. A Shinto priest conducts the ceremony. In the
ceremony, the bride and the groom are purified. However, the
ceremony's important event occurs when the bride and the groom
exchange nuptial cups of sake also
known as san-san-ku-do. With the addition of Western
tradition, the exchange of rings and weddings vows also take
place. Those guests who did not attend the religious ceremony
are able to view the ceremony on video screens located in the
lobby.
Like
Western-style traditions, a reception takes place right after
the wedding ceremony. The guests of the reception include family
members, friends, and colleagues. Due to the wedding industry's
attempt to maximize time and space, the reception will last
exactly two hours. The reception does not include any random
activities, but follows a strict order of events. The reception
includes dramatic entrances by the bride and the groom with
special effects, speeches, and other performances.
Throughout
the reception, the bride shall receive the guests' utmost attention
because she changes two to three times for the dramatic entrances.
With all the dramatic entrances, the groom will join the bride.
For example, the first entrance includes the bride, the groom,
and the nakodo couple. Nakodo means a "matchmaker"
or a "go-between", which is usually referred to the
husband. The nakodo couple plays such an important role
that their names appear on the announcement of the wedding.
The purpose of the nakodo is to symbolize a stable marriage.
As the two couples appear a special effect of a cloud of white
smoke will appear to surround them. Simultaneously, the hall
lights are dimmed and the stage lighting will turn to the color
of rose-pink; this astonishes the guests. Pictures are to be
taken during the dramatic entrances of the bride and the groom.
After the photographs have been taken, they will be led back
to their table.
At
this point the Master of Ceremonies
will congratulate the newlyweds and their family. He/she will
then introduce the nakodo, who will start the opening speeches
and more speeches will follow. Being that the reception is highly
structured the speakers will have the idea of being formal and
concise in mind. With all the speeches finished, the bride and
the groom will perform the Western-style traditions, which include
the following: (1) the cake cutting ceremony and (2) the newlyweds'
first dance as husband and wife.
The
next part of the reception is the toast, or kanpai, which
simplifies the mood of the reception where the guests can start
to relax, eat, and drink. What follows the toast are the short
congratulatory speeches made by relatives, friends, and colleagues.
During this time, the bride has gone to change into her first
costume and continues throughout the reception. However, the groom
will also have a chance to change into his costume, which is the
Western tuxedo. By the end of the night, both the bride and the
groom have changed from their traditional Japanese attire to their
Western-style attire.
After
their last change of costumes, the newlyweds will perform the
candle service. Both will have a long, unlit candle, which will
be lit from the table where their parents are seated. Next, the
couple will walk around the room in a circle and light the candles
placed on their guests' table. Once all the candles are lit, the
newlyweds will return to their table where they will light what
is called the Memorial Candle.
By
the time the candle service is done the two hours restriction
will soon expire. The remaining few minutes includes short speeches,
songs, dances, etc. As the reception ends a flower presentation
ceremony will take place, which is where the newlyweds will present
their parents with a gift of flowers to display appreciation for
their parents raising them to the people they are today. At this
point, the reception has ended with quick flashes and farewells.
Malay
wedding customs
A
Malay wedding ceremony spreads
over two days, beginning with the akad nikah ceremony on
the first day. The groom signs the marriage contract and agrees
to provide the bride with a mas kahwin (dowry). After that,
their hands are dyed with henna during the berinai besar ceremony.
The bride's hair is also trimmed or her eyebrows shaped by a beautician
known as the mak andam. One the second day, the bride is
with her family and friends with musicians and bunga manggar or
palm blossom carriers at the bride's house. At the house they
are greeted with sprinkling of yellow rice and scented water.
North American
customs
United States
customs
Most
weddings in the United States follow
a similar pattern to the Italian wedding. Customs and traditions
vary, but common components are listed below.
- Before
the wedding
- The
host sends invitations
to the wedding guests, usually one to two months before the
wedding. Invitations may most formally be addressed by hand
to show the importance and personal meaning of the occasion.
Large numbers of invitations may be mechanically reproduced.
As engraving was the highest quality
printing technology available in the past, this has become
associated with wedding invitation tradition. Receiving an
invitation does not impose any obligation on the invitee other
than promptly accepting or declining the invitation, and offering
congratulations to the couple.
- While
giving any gift to the newlywed couple is technically optional,
nearly all invited guests who attend the wedding choose to
do so. Wedding gifts are most commonly sent to the bride's
or host's home before the wedding day. Gifts are typically
not brought to ceremonies or receptions, and any that are
will not be opened, but rather placed aside for later delivery
to the newlyweds' home.
- A
color scheme is selected by some to match everything from
bridesmaids' dresses, flowers, invitations, and decorations,
though there is no necessity in doing so.
- At
the wedding
- A
wedding ceremony may take place anywhere, but often a church,
courthouse, or outdoor venue. The
ceremony is usually brief, and may be dictated by the couple's
religious practices. The most common non-religious form is
derived from a simple Anglican
ceremony in the Book
of Common Prayer, and can be performed in less than
ten minutes, although it is often extended by inserting music
or speeches. Because of its brevity, guests who arrive late
may miss the ceremony entirely.
- The
bride usually wears a white, off-white, silver, or other very
light-colored dress, particularly at her first marriage. Brides
may choose any color, although black is strongly discouraged
by some as it is the color of mourning in the west.
- Uncooked
rice is sometimes thrown at the newlyweds
as they leave the ceremony to symbolize
fertility. Some individuals, churches or communities choose
birdseed due to a false but widely believed myth that birds
eating the rice will burst. Because of the mess that rice
and birdseed make, modern couples often leave in clouds of
bubbles.
- The
wedding party may form a receiving
line at this point, or later at a wedding
reception, so that each guest may briefly greet the entire
wedding party.
- At
the wedding reception
- Drinks,
snacks, or perhaps a full meal, especially at long receptions
are served while the guests and wedding party mingle.
- Often
the best man and/or maid of honor toast the newlyweds with
personal thoughts, stories, and well-wishes; sometimes other
guests follow with their own toasts. Champagne is usually
provided for this purpose.
- In
a symbolic cutting of the wedding cake, the couple may jointly
hold a cake knife and cut the first pieces of the wedding
cake, which they feed to each other. In some sub-cultures,
they may deliberately smear cake on each other's faces, which
is considered vulgar elsewhere.
- If
dancing is offered, the newlyweds first dance together briefly.
Often a further protocol is followed, wherein each dances
next with a parent, and then possibly with other members of
the wedding party. Special songs are chosen by the couple,
particularly for a mother/son dance and a father/daughter
dance. In some subcultures, a dollar
dance takes place in which guests are expected to dance
with the one of the newlyweds, and give them a small amount
of cash. This practice, as is any suggestion that the guests
owe money to the couple, is considered rude in most social
groups as it is contrary to basic western etiquette.
- In
the mid-twentieth century it became common for a bride to
toss her bouquet over her shoulder to the assembled unmarried
women during the reception. The woman who catches it, superstition
has it, will be the next to marry. In a similar process, her
groom tosses the bride's garter to the unmarried men, followed
by the man who caught the garter placing it on the leg of
the woman who caught the bouquet. While still common in many
circles, these practices (particularly the latter) are falling
into less favor in the 21st century.
Wedding gifts
The
purpose of inviting guests is to have them witness a couple's
marriage ceremony and vows and to share in their joy and celebration.
Gifts for the wedding couple are optional, although most guests
attempt to give at least a token gift of their best wishes. Some
couples and families feel, contrary to proper etiquette, that
in return for the expense they put into entertaining and feeding
their guests, the guests should pay them with similarly expensive
gifts or cash.
The
couple often registers for gifts
at a store well in advance of their wedding. This allows them
to create a list of household items, usually including china,
silverware and crystalware, linens or other fabrics, pots and
pans, etc. Registries are intended to aid guests in selecting
gifts the newlyweds truly want, and the service is sufficiently
profitable that most retailers, from luxury shops to discount
stores, offer the opportunity. Registry information should, according
to etiquette, be provided only to guests upon direct request,
and never included in the invitation. Some couples additionally
or instead register with services that enable money gifts intended
to fund items such as a honeymoon,
home purchase or college fund. Some find bridal registries inappropriate
as they contravene traditional notions behind gifts, such as that
all gifts are optional and delightful surprises personally chosen
by the giver, and that registries lead to a type of price-based
competition, as the couple knows the cost of each gift. Traditionally,
weddings were considered a personal event and inviting people
to the wedding who are not known to at least one member of the
couple well enough to be able to choose an appropriate gift was
considered inappropriate, and registries should therefore be unnecessary.
Whether considered appropriate or not, others believe that weddings
are opportunities to extract funds or specific gifts from as many
people as possible, and that even an invitation carries an expectation
of monetary reward rather than merely congratulations.
Letters
of thanks for any gift are traditionally sent promptly after the
gift's receipt. Tradition allows wedding gifts to be sent up to
a year after the wedding date. Thanks should be sent as soon as
possible, preferably within two weeks.
African-American
customs
Jumping
the broom developed out West African Asante
custom. The broom in Ashanti and other
Akan cultures also held spiritual
value and symbolized sweeping away past wrongs or warding off
evil spirits. Brooms were waved over the heads of marrying couples
to ward off spirits. The couple would often but not always jump
over the broom at the end of the ceremony.
The
custom took on additional significance in the context of slavery
in the United States. Slaves had no right to legal marriage;
slaveholders considered slaves property and feared that legal
marriage and family bonds had the potential to lead to organization
and revolt. Marriage rituals, however, were important events to
the Africans, who came in many cases come from richly ceremonial
African cultures.
Taking
marriage vows in the presence of a witness
and then leaping over the handle of a broom
became the common practice to create a recognized union. Brooms
are also symbols of the hearth, the center
of the new family being created. Jumping the broom has become
a practice in many modern weddings between African
Americans.
There
are also traditions of broom jumping in Europe, in the Wicca and
Celtic communities especially. They are probably unconnected with
the African practice.
Pakistani
wedding customs
A
Pakistani wedding typically consist of
four ceremonies on four separate days. It may consist of 3 days
if the first function called "Mehndi"
is done in a combined manner by both the bride and groom's family.
The
first function is Mehndi in which the families get together and
celebrate the upcoming wedding function. On this day, it is customary
to wear either green, yellow, orange, or other vibrant colors.
The bride-to-be gets her hands painted with henna, and songs and
dances go on throughout the night. The next day is "baraat"
which is hosted by the bride's family. This event is usually held
in a reception hall, and the groom comes over with his family
and friends; a large feast is given. The bride's friends and relatives
are also present, and the Baraat event can be considered the 'main'
wedding event as it is the largest one out of all the events.
Then there is the holy ceremony of "Nikah" which is
performed by a religious imam, after which bride and groom
are declared as husband and wife.
Next
day there is a function of "Walima"
in which the groom's family is the host and the bride's family
come over for a big feast. On her wedding day, the bride-to-be
can wear any color she wants, but vibrant colors and lots of traditional
gold jewelry are typically worn. It is customary for the bride
to wear traditional clothes such as a lahnga, shalwar
kameez, or sari. These weddings are also typical of
the Muslim community in India.
Iranian wedding
Persian
wedding tradition, despite its local and regional variations,
like many other rituals in Persia
goes back to the ancient Zoroastrian
tradition. Though the concepts and theory of the marriage have
changed drastically by Islamic
traditions, the actual ceremonies have remained more or less the
same as they were originally in the ancient Zoroastrian culture.
Russian
wedding customs
A
traditional Russian wedding lasts for at
least two days and some weddings last as long as a week. Throughout
the celebration there is dancing, singing, long toasts, and food
and drinks. The best man and maid of honor are called witnesses,
"svideteli" in Russian. The ceremony and the ring exchange
takes place on the first day of the wedding.
Throughout
the years, Russian weddings have adopted many western customs,
including bridesmaids and flower girls. During the wedding feast
any of the guests can start chanting "Gor'ko" ("bitter")
which usually is immediately supported by the rest of the guests.
In this case bride and groom should kiss each other and the kiss
should last for as long as the chanting continues.
Religious
aspects of weddings
Most
religions recognize a life-long union with established ceremonies
and rituals. Some religions permit polygamous
marriages or same-sex marriages.
Many
Christian faiths emphasize the raising of children as a priority
in a marriage. In Judaism, marriage is
so important that remaining unmarried is deemed unnatural.[citation
needed] Islam also recommends marriage highly; among
other things, it helps in the pursuit of spiritual perfection.[citation
needed] The Bahá'Ã
Faith sees marriage as a
foundation of the structure of society, and considers it both
a physical and spiritual bond that endures into the afterlife.
Hinduism sees marriage as a sacred duty
that entails both religious and social obligations.[citation
needed] By contrast, Buddhism
does not encourage or discourage marriage, although it does teach
how one might live a happily married life and emphasizes that
marital vows are not to be taken lightly[citation
needed] (see separate
article for details).
Different
religions have different beliefs as regards the breakup of marriage
(see divorce). For example, the Roman
Catholic Church believes that marriage is a sacrament
and a valid marriage between two baptized
persons cannot be broken by any other means than death. This means
that civil divorcés cannot remarry in a Catholic marriage while
their spouse is alive. In the area of nullity,
religions and the state often apply different rules. A couple,
for example, may begin the process to have their marriage annulled
by the Catholic Church only after they are no longer married in
the eyes of the civil authority.
Customs
associated with various religions
Christian customs
Most
Christian churches give some form
of blessing to a marriage; the wedding ceremony typically includes
some sort of pledge by the community to support the couple's relationship.
A church wedding is a ceremony presided over by a Christian
priest or pastor. Ceremonies are based
on reference to God, and are frequently embodied
into other church ceremonies such as Mass.
Customs
may vary widely between denominations. In the Roman Catholic Church
"Holy Matrimony" is considered to be one of the seven
sacraments, in this case one that the spouses bestow upon each
other in front of a priest and members of the community as witnesses.
As all sacraments, it is seen as having been instituted by Jesus
himself (see Gospel of Matthew
19:1-2, Catechism
of the Catholic Church §1614-1615). In the Eastern Orthodox
church, it is one of the Mysteries,
and is seen as an ordination and a martyrdom.
Mar Thoma customs
Kerala
is the homeland of Syrian Malabar
Nasrani (Mar Thoma Christians or St. Thomas Christians). It
is believed that they were converted by Thomas
the Apostle, the disciple of Jesus, in the 1st century. Their
wedding customs and traditions include several Jewish elements
and Indian customs. The ceremony
is divided into two parts. In part I, the officiating minister
receives the wedding ring from the groom, blesses it and puts
it on the ring finger on the right hand of the bride. This is
a very old custom that is still followed. In Part II, the bride
and groom join hands, and a Bible portion is read. Then they are
crowned as the head of a new family. The first gift to his wife
is a necklace with a golden pendant called Minnu. The groom
ties it around the neck of the bride. She is also given a saree
known as Manthrakodi.
After
the ceremony at the church there is the reception that will be
followed by a ceremony called kachakoduppu. In the presence
of immediate relatives only, at the house of the groom, the groom
gives a kacha (saree) to his mother-in-law. From that time
they address one another as mother and son.
Quaker customs
A
Quaker wedding ceremony in a Friends
meeting is similar to any other meeting
for worship, and therefore often very different from the experience
expected by non-Friends.
Hindu customs
Main
article: Hindu wedding
Hindu
ceremonies are conducted totally or at least partially in Sanskrit,
the language of the Hindu scriptures.
The wedding celebrations may last for several days (see the previous
sub-section on Indian customs) and they can be extremely
diverse, depending upon the region, denomination and caste.
On the night of wedding proper, the bride and the bridegroom
garland each other (jaymaala) in front of the guests. Most
guests witness only this short ceremony and then socialize, have
dinner and leave. The religious part comes hours later, witnessed
by close friends and relatives. A Brahmin
(Hindu priest) arranges a sacred yajna
(fire-sacrifice), and the sacred fire (Agni)
is considered the prime witness (sÄkshÄ«) of the marriage.
He chants mantras from the Vedas
and subsidiary texts while the couple are seated before the fire.
The most important step is saptapadi
or saat phere, wherein the bride and the groom, hand-in-hand,
encircle the sacred fire seven times, each circle representing
a matrimonial vow. The Hindu Marriage
Act 1955 of India considers this step to be necessary and
sufficient for the Hindu wedding to be complete. Then the groom
marks the bride's forehead with vermilion
(sindoor) and puts a gold necklace
(mangalsutra) around her neck.
Several other rituals may precede or follow these afore-mentioned
rites. Then the bride formally departs from her blood-relatives
to join the groom's family.
Jewish customs
A
traditional Jewish wedding usually follows this format:
- Before
the ceremony, the couple formalize a written ketubah
(marriage contract), specifying their obligations to each
other and contingencies in case of divorce. The ketubah
is signed by two witnesses and later read under the chuppah.
- The
couple is married under a wedding canopy (chuppah), signifying
their new home together. The chuppah can be made from a piece
of cloth or other material attached to four poles, or a prayer
shawl (tallit) held over the couple
by four family members or friends.
- The
couple is accompanied to the chuppah by both sets of parents,
and stands under the chuppah along with other family members
if desired.
- Seven
blessings are recited, blessing the bride and groom and their
new home.
- The
couple sip from a glass of wine.
- At
some weddings the couple may declare that each is sanctified
to the other, and/or repeat other vows, and exchange rings.
- In
Orthodox and traditional Jewish weddings, the bride does
not speak under the chuppah and only she receives a ring.
The groom recites "Harei at mekudeshet li k'dat Moshe
V'Yisrael"- "behold you are [thus] sanctified
to me by the law of Moses and Israel"
as he places the ring on the bride's right index finger.
The bride's silence and acceptance of the ring signify
her agreement to the marriage. This part of the ceremony
is called kiddushin. The groom's
giving an object of value to the bride is necessary for
the wedding to be valid.
- In
more egalitarian weddings, the bride responds verbally,
often giving the groom a ring in return. A common response
is "ani l'dodi, v'dodi li" (I am my beloved's,
my beloved is mine)
- In
Orthodox weddings, the groom then says:
- "If
I forget you, O Jerusalem, may my right hand forget its skill.
- May
my tongue cling to the roof of my mouth.
- If
I do not remember you,
- if
I do not consider Jerusalem in my highest joy."
- The
ceremony ends with the groom breaking a glass underfoot.
- The
couple spend their first moments as man and wife in seclusion
(apart from the wedding guests, and with no other person present).
This cheder yichud - "the room of seclusion (or
'oneness')" halachically strengthens
the marriage bond, since unmarried women are traditionally
not alone with an unrelated male.
- The
ceremony is followed by a seudat
mitzvah, the wedding meal, as well as music and dancing.
- At
the conclusion of the wedding meal, Birkat
Hamazon (Grace After Meals) is recited, as well as
the seven wedding blessings.
In
more observant communities, the couple will celebrate for seven
more days, called the Sheva Brachot
(seven blessings) during which the seven wedding blessings are
recited at every large gathering during this time.
Mormon customs
Within
The
Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (also known as
Mormons), the act of marriage is regarded as an eternal affair.
As such, there are two kinds of marriages recognized by the Church,
civil marriage and celestial marriage. Civil marriages are those
legally contracted under local law and are dissolved upon the
death of the participants, while celestial marriages, also known
as sealings,
bind the participants as husband and wife for all eternity if
both are righteous.
Celestial
marriages can only be performed by Priesthood
authority within a Sealing Room
in a dedicated temple. Only
members of the LDS church who have a temple recommend may attend
an LDS wedding. The wedding is often referred to as a sealing,
in which husband and wife are sealed beyond death into the next
life. Space is limited in sealing rooms so only family and close
friends attend.
The
sealing can be performed at the same approximate time as the civil
marriage or for a couple civilly married for at least one year.
In the latter case, if the couple already has children, they may
also accompany the ceremony to be sealed to their parents. Children
who are born to parents who have already been sealed need no such
ceremony, as they have been "born in the covenant."
Many
LDS couples will then hold wedding receptions or open
houses after the wedding ceremony in another venue that is
open to all family and friends. Some couples choose to recreate
a more traditional wedding ceremony, or will simply perform some
contemporary customs, such as throwing the bouquet, first dance,
etc.
Wedding types
Below
are several types and styles of weddings. A wedding may include
several of these aspects.
Civil wedding
A
civil wedding is a ceremony presided over by a local civil
authority, such as an elected or appointed
judge, Justice
of the Peace or the mayor of a locality.
Civil wedding ceremonies may use references to God or a deity
(in UK law), but generally no references to a particular religion
or denomination. They can
be either elaborate or simple. Many civil wedding ceremonies take
place in local town or city halls or courthouses in judges' chambers.
Elopement
Eloping
is the act of getting married, often unexpectedly, without inviting
guests to the wedding. In some cases a small group of family and/or
friends may be present, while in others, the engaged couple may
marry without the consent and/or knowledge of parents or others.
While the couple may or may not be widely known to be engaged
prior to the elopement, the wedding itself is generally a surprise
to those who are later informed of its occurrence.
Same-sex wedding
A
same-sex or same-gender wedding is a ceremony in
which two people of the same sex are married. This event may be
legally documented as a marriage or another legally recognized
partnership such as a civil union.
Where such partnerships are not legally recognized, the wedding
may be a religious or symbolic ceremony designed to provide an
opportunity to make the same public declarations and celebration
with friends and family that any other type of wedding may afford.
These are often referred to as "commitment ceremonies."
Offiants
at same-sex weddings may be religiously ordained. Many religions
and branches of religions, including Quakers,
Unitarians, Ethical
Culture, Reform and Reconstructionist Jews,
the United Church of Christ,
the Episcopal Church[citation
needed], the Metropolitan
Community Church, and the Reformed
Catholic Church recognize and perform same-sex marriages,
even if the government of their geographic area may not.
White wedding
A
white wedding is a term for a traditional formal or semi-formal
Western wedding. This term refers to the color of the wedding
dress, which became popular after Queen
Victoria wore a pure white gown when she married Prince
Albert, and many were quick to copy her choice. At the time,
the color white to many symbolized both extravagance and sexual
purity, and had become the color for use by girls of the royal
court. Though white no longer symbolizes the same ideas today,
the color remains the most popular choice for first time brides
in the west.
Destination
wedding
Not
to be confused with an elopement, a destination wedding
is one in which a wedding is hosted, often in a vacation-like
setting, at a location to which most of the invited guests must
travel and often stay for several days. This could be a beach
ceremony in the tropics, a lavish event in a metropolitan resort,
or a simple ceremony at the home of a geographically distant friend
or relative.
Weekend wedding
A
weekend wedding is a wedding in which couples and their
guests celebrate over the course of a weekend. Special activities,
such as spa treatments and golf tournaments, may be scheduled
into the wedding itinerary throughout the weekend. Lodging usually
is at the same facility as the wedding and couples often host
a Sunday brunch for the weekend's finale.
Military wedding
A
military wedding is a ceremony conducted in a military
chapel and may involve a Saber Arch.
In most military weddings the groom will wear (and occasionally
the bride if both individuals are in the Armed Services), a military
dress uniform in lieu of civilian formal wear, although military
dress uniforms largely serve the
same purpose. Some retired military personnel who marry after
their service has ended may opt for a military wedding.
Double wedding
A
double wedding is a single ceremony where two affianced
couples rendezvous for two simultaneous or consecutive weddings.
Typically, a fiancé with a sibling who
is also engaged might plan a double wedding wherein both couples
legally marry.
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